Energy Vampires in Family dynamics
In honor of Father’s Day, I thought this would be an amazing time to discuss how energy vampires appear in family dynamics. I have reserved this space on my blog to begin talking about how I overcame abuse and the deeper reasons why monsters do the things that they do. I have conducted my own research, and collecting testimonies from other survivors, official documentation and legal investigations/court cases, and prophetic revelations that are revealed to me because I operate from light and truth.
What are energy vampires?
Energy vampires are entities who consciously or subconsciously feed off the light of others with ill intent to steal, mimic, or dominate. They drain the life out of people and disguise themselves as your friends, partners, and even family members.
How can you tell if someone in your family is an energy vampire?
Being around them makes you feel completely drained. Even if the interaction went “well,” they can still harness your energy just by being in proximity, especially if you don’t protect yourself energetically around them.
Something just feels “off” when you’re around them. You might notice your nervous system having intense reactions without knowing why.
They manipulate energy and people while using grooming tactics to create a false feeling of safety. They utilize resources like money, housing, etc, to help keep their narratives up and dismiss suspicions because they are in “control” and “provide”
They use mind control tactics to imprint on children, especially during the developmental stages of a child’s life. This stage determines how they will show up in life as adults. When abusers fragment a child’s sense of safety at a young age before they develop, it makes it easier for the abusers to implement brainwashing techniques, and it makes it harder for those children to deprogram in the future. By creating a twisted false reality for their victims, it isolates children from speaking out, even if that was never discussed in the family. Children might be programmed to think the abuse is normal, and if they are physically isolated on top of that, typically, children don’t speak out. They might act out behaviorally, getting written off as “disruptive” when really, they are being programmed to normalize abuse. And let’s make this very VERY clear: no child under any circumstances should feel afraid to be in the care of the people who are supposed to protect them and provide basic necessities and emotional support to help them succeed in society. Which is the bare minimum you sign up for when you choose to bring a life into this world. No child should have to fight to survive when they were brought into the world without choice.
False loyalty patterns in family systems:
In these systems, instead of building a family on love, it is built on secrecy, obligation, rewriting of roles (like when children step up with parental duties), etc.
These are some of the unspoken/spoken rules of these family dynamics:
“Protect the family at all costs.”
creating a “family bond” like this helps abusers have power over anyone who speaks out, and enables behaviors like black mail
“Your memory isn’t reliable.”
an attempt to install self doubt
“They did their best.”
Typically shows up when people excuse someone’s abuse. They have thought patterns like “it’s their first time living too”.
“You owe us for raising you.”
This is debt coded love. They make you feel guilty for disrupting the family image when that image was built on denial
“Family comes first, even if it means abuse.”
creates a false sense of belonging that confuses loyalty and abuse
“They will never believe you.”
tries to install fear into your nervous system by making you second guess your truth and the power that comes with that
“Don’t speak or something bad will happen”
loops in your subconscious and makes you afraid to speak out
How do I know if I’ve been brainwashed?
Here are some examples that can help you determine if you have been brainwashed:
Believing abuse was your fault or normal
feeling intense shame when remembering the truth
loyalty to those who harmed you (AKA: Stockholm syndrome)
fear of being seen as the one who “destroyed the family”
thinking things like “maybe it wasn’t that bad” (minimizing the harm)
feeling “selfish” or “crazy” for wanting to speak out
WHO BRAINWASHES: it doesn’t have to be cults ot high profile criminals. In most cases, it’s the people you “trust” the most. For example:
schools/people in authority at schools
therapists
religious figures/groups
family
legal circles
daycares
respected adults in the community
Using tactics like fear/isolation, guilt/reward systems, language loops… it is all an illusion used against the most innocent.
What do I do next..?
I have some great news because even acknowledging the truth and opening your mind to a new thought pattern, you have already done half the work. You don’t need to rush to heal. This next chapter is for you to heal on your own time, but also take authority in realizing that you are not crazy or “too much” for owning your truth.
Here are some affirmations you can use to help you clear out energetic contracts:
I reclaim my clarity from every story that wasn’t mine.
I reject the guilt that was assigned to my light.
I choose my voice, even if it trembles and even if no one claps.
My truth is not too loud, it pierces distortions.
Feel these affirmations to your core and repeat them whenever you need to. It is done.
I’m sending so much love to you all, and I believe in you <3 I will be posting more about these topics, so stay tuned for more and feel free to ask me any questions!
Love,
Marley xoxox
{June 15, 2025}